But she is the one saying when we fix up the kitchen, when we restore my pickup...
70Cuda,
My wife (now XW) was updating our kitchen and she was planning on giving our master bathroom a facelift as well. And, as far as I know, she was doing all of that while she was planning to separate. I don't understand why she was doing that.
My best guess is that she thought she was going to get the house so she was going to upgrade the house as much as possible while there was still a second income.