I am trying really hard not to get eager. When the topic of the future comes up I try to word it to not include "us" nor include individuals. just a generic "the house" not ours or yours. But she is the one saying when we fix up the kitchen, when we restore my pickup (she has a 67 GMC project truck also)
It is so hard to give her the space she needs. but I think I am doing a decent job of it.
