Lana, I'm so happy to hear that you are feeling good. Sadly I'm not surprised that he has already dropped out. Mine pulls the same stuff. Yes, let him own his relationship. I think we are in the same club. 25 told me at the beginning that I could live in a legal marriage and find happiness or get a divorce and find my happiness that way. I have a huge financial disincentive in filing for D and don't believe in it. Sounds like your financial position might not change either way. Seems like you have the same choices. A marriage in name only or a divorce that you initiate. I will say that your H speaks to you in a much more kind and loving way than mine does. I have initiated no R talk since December. If I did, I'm sure I'd hear how much he can't wait to be divorced from me. If the status quo works for you, don't give one moment's thought to what anyone else thinks.
