A WW? (8)

[DonH]

I have to say that I think your W somewhat gave you a gift here. It's not nice and not what you may want but it is a gift. I think she is being 100% honest. Will you please listen to her? I know I suggested only a short time ago that you stop trying to help her and that it is clearly making her mad when you do try. So why do you keep doing it? I'm really not trying to be mean here but you are just not getting it. I think she was extremely honest in what she wrote. This is honestly how she feels and she's telling you as much. Imagine how you'd feel if you said to her, "please do not try to help me with anything!" And her response is, okay I won't and by the way I am doing your laundry this afternoon. You'd be like WTF and mad as heck. Right? This is why she thinks you don't listen to her - perhaps because you don't? Or is it you just shrug it off and do what you want anyhow? Or are you just not able to help yourself or stop yourself?

You know that I am no fan of your W and all she has done. I think she is wrong on so many things but on this, wow it seems crystal clear. On top of it, your actions are pushing her farther away. Just stop and let her be until she asks. As I said weeks back, I think it's possible she might start to miss you offering to help and start to want it again.

Others hopefully can suggest some actions on what you should do but if I get anything from her last email to you, it's a total open door to how she feels amd why / right or wrong she was very honest with you and I think that's a huge gift!