You're a prolific writer to be sure. It's a good thing, but have you considered writing for fun? Just asking.
As for the behavior of your H - the others have mentioned it, but just to reiterate - he's both guilty and giddy judging by his actions. And that gives way to anger for the third side of the wobbly wheel.
If you think he's angry, bitter and ugly now... just hang on a bit. He'll be vying for man of the year shortly (in his mind) by putting you down and dragging anything and everything out that occurred over the last 35 years. And even a few things that did not. There are no rules, but that seems to be fairly normal if you go by what I've seen over the years.
It's not rational. You're a lawyer. You know what kind of person you cannot negotiate with? Guess away, but it's the irrational type (in case you get stuck).
25, you are not superhuman. You will feel this for a while to come. Don't be surprised and don't be angry at yourself for it. And don't be surprised if he goes through similar in his own weird way.
When you deal with him, deal with him like he's somebody else. Be objective and not subjective or emotional. That's really a lot harder than it sounds, 25. But his emotions will get the better of him over time - it's how the law is structured.
There will be time for the other items later as well. In the meantime, limit the amount of time you allow yourself to deal with the warfare to no more than a few hours each day. No more. Less if you can. Contiguous time. The rest of the time? Try things until you find the ones that allow you to actually relax and recharge. That's your primary objective right now - to find things that help you relax (non-personally-destructive things).
Take care of that first. AJM
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
