OwnIt - I too have read a couple of books about PA and narcissism. Two of my therapists have said they suspect H falls on the unhealthy side of the narcissism spectrum, but they cautioned me that since they haven't spoken with him themselves, there is no way for certain for them to tell.
I have been secretly hoping a neon sign would appear above H's head declaring him an unhealthy narc. At least then I would have a more concrete picture of what is happening.
I think that would also tell me not to hang onto any hope of change. Maybe that is why I so desperately feel like I need to know.
