3.5 Months of Pain - Fork in the Road

[sellout]

Yes, I am getting counseling for myself. For me to be a better person, father, employee and general member of society. As far as the 180 question...pretty simple really, basically initiating no contact with wife, if/when she calls/texts be polite, upbeat and don't linger on with the conversation. No relationship talks about us or her and OM. Act as though that doesn't exist right now. Be genuine and don't tell her that I am GAL but let the results show in time, which they will. As far as the 50/50 split question, it's a little more complicated than I can explain at the moment. I will try and explain more at another time, but not now. Our divorce is still proceeding and haven't even had our first court date. I still have at the very minimum 2-3 months before its final. IN that amount of time I plan to be the MAN i need to be and the man she always wanted and would be a fool to leave. Is wife was being honest that had I handled all of this different the last three months then we would currently be working on marriage then here is the deal... i tried an approach that didn't work. I yelled, screamed, begged, pleaded, tricked, threated, etc... IT DIDN'T work. However, one thing it did show is that I was not ok with her actions. New plan of attack to avoid being stuck with the same old thing is what I wrote above. Kill her with kindness and be the man I know I can be.

Keep in mind, only 2 weeks ago she broke down and waned to give 110% to work on marriage. The next day that changes. 4 days ago she told me she still loves me and wants what best for me. She will take my calls, respond to my texts and we both now for the last week have been upbeat and friendly with each other. Yes, she is cake eating but it may be a start. During the 3.5 month process this is the longest we have gone with being friendly with each other. I just need to keep the momentum and see what happens. Her decision is out of my control but I know my wife and truly believe that she will wake up out of this fog one day.