Sometimes I have these moments of clarity where I realize that I just might be better off without W.
The person she has become is not he W I know or want to be around.
She will literally bad mouth me to friends and family and then will be nice to my face. Then she reverses course and acts very angry around me and avoids me. I just leave her alone. I say hi and goodbye when I leave the house and stay out of her business.
Also, my mom took a pic of WAW with the family cat on her shoulder. WAW immediately got defensive and asked who she was sending the picture to. My mom told her she was going to send it to W's sister because it was a cute pic. W flipped out and said she does not want her picture sent to anyone.
Basically, W does not want anyone to see that she is still smiling in this house. She has painted a picture for everyone that will listen that she is a victim living here and it's awful. The last thing she wants is for people to see her having fun with a cat while in my parents house.
My mom also showed me a text from W that said she needs to get out of this "abusive situation". Ummm... if I'm so abusive, why are you staying in this house until your daughter finishes school? And why do you let me help your daughter with homework and build Lego sets with her for hours at a time?
I feel my anger and resentment building. I will not react and give W the justification she is seeking. I feel like it's a character assasination. I know I shouldnt give a damn what her family thinks of me. And I know I'm not abusive. Why then, do I feel compelled to defend myself?
W has everyone convinced that she is some sort of abuse survivor. I know I need to let it go. It just upsets me that this is the same person a few weeks ago, that was losing her mind to be buying a home with me.
My family has been nothing but accomodating for W and her D. Her family views my family as the enemy while W lives here rent free.
Honestly, I dont know if I could look past this stuff if W ever wanted to try and work things out.
One thing I know for sure, I will not react. If W wants out, she can leave. I want her last memories of me to be of someone that wanted things to work out but respected his partners wishes to leave. I need to know that I did the absolute best I could to try and make things right.
