Turning 50 this summer and....

[EastTN]

Tx,

Good luck in the road you're taking right now. I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision. I do think you should keep something in mind, though: when you were going through the worst part of this, remember how you felt. It's likely she's going to feel the same way. Even if you're going to walk away, treat her with compassion.

Also, I imagine you've got a ton of anger that's going to be coming your way from her. Be ready for that.

[Mach1]

T...

I understand completely what you are saying. And I'm not seeing a lot of anger from you. You knew that you were gonna get some slack over this.

I mean hell, this is a site full of people trying to get what you have (a restored marriage).

In the true essence of DBing , I think it unfair to condemn your choices just because.

What I see in your words is some residual pain from all that has happened. And a razor fine line between judgement, and a personal boundary of what you will, and will not, allow for yourself.

I see it more as a healthy boundary, and a decision of what you want for yourself in life, yet it reads almost as judgement. Because you are so 'absolute' in your decision.

I urge you to be aware of the two...

Finding a way through the collateral damage is hard. Damned hard...

And it is a process that many people cannot endure. I have seen multiple reconciliations where the LBS has eventually ended the marriage a few miles down the road. Simply because that hill was too large to conquer....

And as long as you can walk away with a clear conscious, and knowing that you gave 'er all she had , then in the end, I hope that you find peace throughout this crossroads in your life...

[Stormchaser]

This post saddens me.

I wonder if this will happen to us. I SO want our reconciliation to work, but when I see this, I wonder if I will reach a breaking point in the future like you have? Will I say in 4 - 5 years, "hey, I tried, but I can't do it anymore?"

Ugh. Its been over a year for me and there are times I think I moved on, then there are times I think, "why should I even bother?"