Thread #3 - Mediation

[KevinIn]

Zues and Kaizen - i think you both read a little too far into what i was saying. While yes, i am giving up on saving the marriage, i was using this forum as a place to vent so i don't actually say and do those things.

I'm not trying to take everything, nor am I being a jerk to her. I just don't want to be a doormat and let her dictate every single thing just because i'm trying to do a 180 and not be as controlling as she perceived me to be.

And yes, i need to blow off some steam. I've been absurdly cooperative and nice for the 5 months since BD. She's become more angry and mean during these 5 months for some odd reason (probably her coping mechanism to justify her actions). There's only so much being nice that someone can take if the other person continues to be mean. Since we have kids, we are forced to interact and she is just not a good person to me during those interactions even though i'm being a 100% good person and not being mean.

I do appreciate your words, but at the same time i'm not being the total manipulative jerk that it may have come across as. I just can't be a total doormat to her much longer.