Hopefully the DR book will be arriving at the library this afternoon. Been reading as much of the links that I believe apply to much sitch. Is there anything in particular that you would recommend? Other than neglect and sex issues within the past year. Whichever both have been resolved in the past few months. I discovered through counseling that I have a slight anger issue in regards to disrespect. When someone disrespect me, I have a habit of taking their heads off verbally. Whichever normally wouldn't be a bad thing, but not good to have in a marriage. Even even your W is saying things to deserve it. I have changed this behavior as well. Even though it seems that my W is constantly doing things to get me riled up. I recognize that I can only control my actions and gave remained calm.