Oh my goodness KML, that is quite an implosion and I'm so sorry to read that. It sounds as though he has some significant difficulties and I hope he manages to work through these.

As you say, it is good that your living and monetary arrangements are separate. That's a lot cleaner and easier to walk away from. And ugh, to find there has been OP in the mix for most of the time you were together...I can see why you would want to walk away without a backward glance in all those circumstances.

I'm glad to read you aren't devastated, and I know from reading your posts that you are an independent woman with plenty of resourcefulness and a full life. Still, healing time is important and take all that you need for yourself because that's a rough turn of events for sure.

((((((Big hugs))))) xx

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