25 yearsMLC 10 years late I FILE part 2

[180Man]

QUESTION

our youngest and most angry child, d19, has h's old cell phone. The fool did not wipe his texts clean. Several texts are blasting me or lying to me (and some inappropriate ones to other women he works with that are, at best, way too flirtatious).

But h blasts d19 in some of his texts.

In one text to his bff, he says he "won't invest any more time" in his R with this daughter. He is "giving up on her" (b/c they fought and though she was difficult, it was 90% due to his constant neglect and long absences. PLUS she's the child and he's the parent...)

She retains these painful texts. She wants to post one on his FB page on fathers day.

This hits home for me. I was about 19 or 20 when I picked up my dad's phone for something legitimate. I can't remember what, I think I was going to use it to call my mom or something like that. Doesn't matter. I saw odd texts to his old secretary (like 20 years previous) bragging about his kids and I saw calls to a weird number. I searched the internet for the number and found ads for a lady of the night.

Never looked at my father the same again. I never brought it up to him, but I was extremely disappointed in him. I knew my parents had long ago stopped any attempt at working on their R, but...this was [censored] I never needed nor wanted to know.

I never actually saw a "question" in there, haha, but I'm guessing you wanted to ask what to do about D19 having the phone? It's really fùcking unhealthy for her to have it and be reading that crap. She's not going to easily give it over to you or destroy it and you probably wouldn't want to ask her to. Posting on FB is too much. But she also needs to get it out of her hands so she can start to heal. Tell her to mail it to him, kills two birds with one stone.

WOW....shít....I just had my own revelation about something. Will write about it in my thread to avoid hijacking.

Anyways...D19 needs to ditch the phone one way or another.