update..

I was "let go" from my job due to "your position was eliminated" after 18 years. I have a severance package that will carry me for a while so I'm ok there.

I can get another job, that is not an issue. My concern is when/if WW finds out she will want 1/2 of my 401K money.
I do not want the divorce but I don't want to give her 1/2 of my 401k either. In the D papers she agreed that she would keep her 401k and I would keep mine. Hers was $1k but mine is substantially more.

Am I just being selfish again by wanting to protect my interests or is my concern warranted?


M 8 yrs
EA 6/16
PA 09/16
Separated 10/16
WW moves out 11/16
D Filed 11/16, Hearing 05/08/17