Last key detail...in one of our marathon phone conversations, she told me..."had you handled this whole situation different in the last 3.5 months we would be working on our marriage and things would be much different. Your actions pushed me further into his arms". Maybe too late but live and learn.
I felt this EXACT same way you do until Jeep came along and slugged me in the head. Hopefully, he'll be along shortly, but I've got to say: what she is telling you here is that if you hadn't given her grief over her affair, you'd still be on better terms. That might very well be true, but if you stated it another way, it would be, "if you let me walk all over you and treat you like a doormat, then maybe you'd still be getting some crumbs from my table."
I don't know you, and I don't know how you want to live your life, but is that what you REALLY want your marriage to be?
