By taking things slow I mean I'm avoiding conflicts. There are plenty of things I could call her out on but I've just avoiding. I guess this is walking on eggshells but still seems to be within the scope of the 37 rules.
Did you avoid conflicts in the past, or would it be totally new behavior? Yes, it is walking on eggshells. How do you see it as being within the scope of the 37 rules?
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Also, sandi2 a lot of what you are saying applies to me. Now when my W and I have a disagreement she brings so much ammunition into the argument that is purely unnecessary. Here I have to keep DB'ing and not fall for escalating and engaging with her. When both parties agree the marriage is basically over it seems ridiculous to argue over small things doesn't it? At this point we're just on the same terms as co-workers.
Here's the thing about the mindset of a wayward wife.....she does not use logic. She operates out of her emotions, and she is motivated by her selfishness.
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I'm holding on for now to see if perhaps the A will take a turn or she brings us into divorce mediation.
Do you see this ^^^^^ being a passive position?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
