now i'm in a different place that isn't nearly as positive about my future relationship with my wife (married or otherwise).
Im not sure what that has to do with DBing or your comments below.
Originally Posted By: Kaizen
That said, why do you think you deserve 'more than half'?
Why not? Doesn't hurt to ask for it. She's getting what she wants - out of the marriage. I might as well get something I want - more than half.
I suppose not. Why do you think she deserves less than half of the marital assets? To me, it reads like you deserve some kind of monetary reward for the damage to your ego or self esteem. Im certainly not a lawyer, but I cant imagine asking for more than half.
Originally Posted By: Kaizen
What do you have to gain by 'telling her off'? Personal satisfaction.
Personal satisfaction in saying hurtful things to someone else?
Originally Posted By: Kaizen
What are your goals? For my kids and I to have happy lives. And how does this get you closer to them? It will make me feel better - i've been nice about this situation too long and I need to express my feelings.
Why do you think you will feel better for more than just a few minutes/hours/days? This sounds like, again, you just want to inflict some damage as retribution for what you have experienced. Hurt people hurt people. How about instead of telling her off, you use that energy to heal yourself?
Originally Posted By: Kaizen
Regardless of whether or not you want to R, I dont see how doing this is good for anyone. It probably isn't, but neither was her affair.
So because you feel you were wronged, you deserve to be able to do or say whatever you want?
