Thread #3 - Mediation

[KevinIn]

Kaizen - fair questions. Just a few weeks ago, i would have had very different responses. But, now i'm in a different place that isn't nearly as positive about my future relationship with my wife (married or otherwise).

Until now, i've been a good person about it and negotiated "fair" compromises. But, since she's the one ending our marriage and continuing her affair, I'm going to push for more than half of everything.

No one is going to look after you except for yourself.

That said, why do you think you deserve 'more than half'?

Why not? Doesn't hurt to ask for it. She's getting what she wants - out of the marriage. I might as well get something I want - more than half.

I also really just want to tell her off. She deserves to hear it. But, i'll probably wait until after I have signed custody and asset agreements. I just gotta stay nice until then, while also pushing for whats in my best interest.

What do you have to gain by 'telling her off'? Personal satisfaction.

What are your goals? For my kids and I to have happy lives. And how does this get you closer to them? It will make me feel better - i've been nice about this situation too long and I need to express my feelings.

Regardless of whether or not you want to R, I dont see how doing this is good for anyone. It probably isn't, but neither was her affair.