I am just focusing on my own life and the kids. There are plenty of gray areas in this but I'm so tired of getting into conversations that just repeat themselves and me trying to re-explain things over and over.
This is a behavior that seems to be common with some (not all) LBH's, especially those with the NGS. Some W bullies her H by means of her every changing mood swings. He walks around on eggshells trying not to say or do something to set her off. When she starts blasting away at him, he tries "explaining" things to her. However, she doesn't want an explanation.......b/c she wants to blast him.
I'm not sure what you mean by taking things slow. Can you explain?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!