It all happened super fast with me. Just 6 months ago we were happily married (or i thought we were). She never gave us a chance once she told me of her affair. Oh well. Her loss. Someone elses gain. Its my kids that will suffer the most.
This is almost the exact same situation that I am in. My wife's affair has been going on since late Dec and she never gave me a chance once it started and I discovered it out of the blue. She refuses even discernment counseling. The affair is still active and we're in limbo with her still living with me, just not in the MBR which she finally moved out of.
I'm not forcing this into mediation yet but I'm not holding out any hope of us reconciling either. I kick myself sometimes for not being much more forceful when it first started and telling her to end it or move out but then what good what it have done and do I really want this person anymore?
So I am just waiting and it is mostly for the sake of my kids. Waiting that possibly she'll give up on her AP and perhaps we could try MC.
Me46 W46 M25yrs T29yrs 4 children ILYBNILWY 1/30/17 PA confronted 3/6/17 Separated same house
