So, if she was emotionally charged, or ranting, did you sit there and listen, but say nothing? How did you respond calmly - to the points she was making, or by telling her you wouldn't converse when she was like that?
Like I said, it took practice. Communicate the boundary and then follow through.
When my W was emotionally charged, I'd say something like this, "I respect myself too much to be treated this way. This conversation is over until we can talk in a civil manner." Then I'd walk away or hangup and turn my phone off.
Right, gotcha. That's along the lines of what I've been trying to put in place, although with limited success so far. I don't even mind if it is a heated debate, but if it's just going to be personal insults or character assassination then I'm not taking that.
I just need to persevere, as she tends to follow me about when I have tried that.
Thanks you
-- Me: 47 WW: 35 SS: 17 D: 5 T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs OEA confirmed: August 17 2016 ongoing since April 2016. OEA continues (with occasional breaks) BD2 - W says will visit OM in Jan 18
