I have to face How i was silent and complicit in bad choices, ask why I didn't enforce boundaries (fear, probably) and whatever I was hiding from, carping with snarky rewards at times, and blending into h's dreams so much that I am discovering mine now...
BINGO This is the most important thing in making a new relationship. SO whether it is with you your old spouse or someone new if you dont fix yourself you can not hve a great relationship in the future without this.
