I'm also very sad to read this news. I had a feeling that you had been leaning this way for some time now. Some of your comments started to sound a little cryptic.
Can I ask you how long ago her affair started? How long was the affair? And how long it has been since the affair ended?
I went through it many years ago and I might be able to offer some insight if you care.
M-42 W-40 S-12 D-10 Together-13 years Married-10 years Separated-6/2016 ILYBINILWY-7/2016 EA-4/2016 (best guess) PA-7/2016 (best guess)