I feel like I am willing to do the work and I know things are hard and won't always be perfect.
KGirl, I dated someone large chunks of last year, an on-again off-again kind of thing. When we were "off", I went out with other guys, 50 first dates. My friends started making fun of me for being an entire season of Seinfeld episodes, I dumped these guys for the most inane reasons. Low talker, close talker, man hands, puffy shirt. But they weren't right for me for whatever reason and it would have been a waste of everyone's time to go on a second date. I am willing to do the work and I know things are hard and won't always be perfect, but....that's what dating is for, to decide if you want to make some sort of committment to each other. It's OK if you go out with a lot of guys, just don't waste time trying to fix them. Move on. If he's not the one, it doesn't matter why, and you aren't married to him. Move on. Enjoy the process. I met some nice guys, and learned a lot about myself. There's nothing wrong with that. And now I've been dating someone a couple of months, and I'd have probably never met him if I had been wasting time trying to force something with someone else. So, my advice is, relax and enjoy the process, trust your gut, be quick to politely move on from someone you have no commitment to. Wishing you all the best, please post more often.
