I'm sorry to read this TX, and I'm sorry that you guys haven't been able to make things work after your W's A, despite her remorse and doing whatever it takes.

I do think it must be incredibly difficult to try and rebuild your marriage following infidelity. Like you, I would certainly have given it a go, but I didn't get the opportunity.

When you talk of your W's cruelty, I would see this more as awful mistakes and I do think it is best to think in terms of people trying to do things 'for themselves' as opposed 'to you.' I think when people have an A, they tend to compartmentalise and minimise the impact their behaviour had. Sometimes it is only when we walk in those shoes, we truly realise...

So, have you told your W yet?

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus