In the UK- PT22 - anyone for a glayvar?

[Sotto]

Hi Huddy, glad to hear you and NDY still meet up and you're making some nice plans for yourself. I understand about the dreams. I had those too at one point. I think it is just your brain working through it all and processing what has happened - healing hopefully

As for the hope aspect. It is good to catch yourself when you start wondering should I put X on hold or Y on hold in case...

Then we get on the track of analysing recent interactions and wondering what they are doing, how long before they might turn etc..

For me, I decided there were two things I wouldn't do because I chose to leave the door open a crack. I wouldn't file for divorce and I wouldn't date (until at least a year after D).

I have stuck to those two things and of course I am D'd and have been for almost a year

However, the important message is, if you choose to do those two things, do them. And in every other sense, move on and live your life as fully and joyfully as you are able.

I decided not to even worry or wonder - what if he changed his mind, turned etc. Because it wasn't happening at that point in time, so it didn't matter. If he did turn or change his mind, I would worry about that at that point only. Otherwise, worrying and focusing on something that may or may not happen detracted from living my own life as best I could.

Hope this helps anyway Huddy and enjoy your weekend!