KevinIn, I can relate to your situation. My wife is also still in her affair and divorcing me. It has been a 3 year on/off again affair....(he was my best friend). My wife hasn't been mean but we don't talk since she left. It has been 2 months since I have seen her or heard her voice. The way she left was while I was at work her ap came over and they packed up the house. Didn't hear from her for four days after she left. This all happened quickly. The week she left we were planning house projects, future dreams, made love a few times. I had no idea it was coming. I thought she was truthful. I am working on myself and using the DB principles to better myself but I am not resisting the divorce. It is going to happen. I ask myself a lot why my heart won't let go of this woman. I would never date a woman that did this to her boyfriend or husband. My wife has become someone that lacks character and integrity. To much lying in our marriage the last 3-4 years. I don't like being alone but I am starting to see it is better to be alone than with my soon to be ex wife.
I would love to tell my wife off.... unfortunately it wouldn't do any good as she is so not using logic in her decisions she would probably use it to justify her actions even more. I'll keep my mouth shut.
Me 38, Her 40 T-14, M-13, No kids BD-1 4/14- EA/PA BD-2 10/14- EA BD-3 2/17- EA/PA W Moves out 2.10.17 in with AP W Served D papers 3.6.17 Divorce Final- 5.23.17
