Chatted for a while with my SIL and she brought up how my W is just not herself right now (of course I've known this). Just a totally different look in her eyes and it's really freaky.
She's really in her own world right now. I'm beginning to suspect an old EA of hers. It has never been a PA, but it has been a crutch for her. We discussed this relationship in our MC last summer and she rationalized away on the significance of it. It was her outlet to intimacy since we struggled at it.
She stopped communication with him and we continued therapy for a few months. Why did I just bring up the EA? I know I'm not supposed to but I was curious who her network was after our chat last night. Looked up our phone bill and it was the usual two (young co-worker and friend who's ready to bolt from her husband too). Saw one more phone number from texting and it looked familiar and it was the EA.
Of course I only know what I know from our therapy sessions and my discussions with my W, but I honestly believe her that there's no PA here. It's more about daily comfort/intimacy that I couldn't provide her (and my W told me that his W couldn't provide him). Am I in Wayward Wife Land now?
If so, I'm assuming I call this out. My W talks about respecting each other through this process and it makes my blood boil knowing she's chatting again. I'm not flaking out on my responsibilities here, work to do, etc. Far from that. I also know this is not really on the OM, but on my W and her lack of respect for our M and R.
Help would be greatly appreciated. Will be seeing her tomorrow when we switch out for the week.
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
