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Hi Thornton, just dropping by to offer moral support. I'm sorry you had the R talk. I guess they just aren't very productive when they happen. And it must have been hard hearing stuff you heard previously too. Remember that people say stuff based on how they feel right now. And also know that feelings can (and often do) change. Both hers and yours..

I was really interested in the couple of posts before the one above - from Zues and your response. These are areas to focus on for sure. I have never yet seen someone post - well gosh darn I took the path of growth and I really regret that. If we choose the path of growth, I don't believe we can lose - whatever the outcome of the relationship situation.

In your sitch, I strongly believe it's important to work on you. If we think ahead to some possible outcomes:

You reconcile....but you worry this could happen again because you know you depend on her so much

You don't reconcile....and you dread the one bed apartment and the TV dinner

Or you choose the path of growth...

You reconcile....if you would still consider a R with her...and the new R is on a more sustainable footing with a stronger, more independent you..

You don't reconcile...and you genuinely look forward to what life has to offer as you feel more comfortable in your own skin..

It's a win win I think :-)