25 yearsMLC 10 years late I FILE part 2

[25yearsmlc]

Leahsue

I will re-read your post, I'm sure. I can say "WTF?" for your experience with your ex. I mean, damn. Especially with the thought that you fear for your life.


Reminds me of a murder case I was familiar with. A divorce and custody issues were involved. And the stbxh murdered his 3 children while his w was out jogging. He also took his own life.

He knew his xw would be the one to find the slain children, and he did not want her to die. He wanted her to suffer. Then, to avoid facing the consequences of his own actions, he took his own life. That's some serious cowardly evil.

So be careful, Leahsue, geez.

I'm glad h is not living near me & I don't have to worry about running into him. OR worse...

OH one upside to all the recent crap, is seeing h more clearly.

H totally not having my back when I was sick is the worst thing he's ever done in our m, that I know of--. So no, I don't think affairs are the "Worst thing possible".

See, to me affairs are lousy but I can at least understand the temptation.

But abandoning me when I was sick - and he's an MD - is indefensible. Oddly selfish.
And It is truly something I do not think I will ever understand.

When he finally retrieved me to fly back west, as I was not able to travel alone, we were at my sisters house for the night before the flight.

He stared out a window and turned to her and said "isn't life beautiful??" to my sister, with a weird strange smile on his face. I hoped it was b/c I was recovering but she said "no, 25, that's not how it came out at all."

This "isn't life beautiful??" was said the day after I got out of the neurological ward, from which 40% of the patients never depart...This sister had been terrified for me, as were all my siblings and our children. So even if he was in La La land about the OW or the tundra paradise, or the millions of $$ he'd make all on his own

to say it to my sister, with a smile on his face is simply...NOT NORMAL...incredible lack of social context and no self awareness. I see this small statement as more significant now. Oh, btw, my sister is a calm loving rational woman. She told me it's the first time in her life she "wanted to smash someone in the face."

Oh and the - quitting his GREAT job to avoid paying support, to arguing I should leave my family & friends here behind, to hang a shingle out in Texas b/c, you know, that's where I'm licensed (licensed there, to fit h's future needs but I digress) and I guess starting a law practice is free...

and all the other maneuvers and FB weirdness in my face, and wanting our kids to hear all about how great OW is--(you know, the one he met the day after I filed...yeah, okay...well)

I am not missing this ^^ man very much. My mourning period is shortening rapidly.

Legal/money worries aside, I'm getting comfortable thinking

"Good riddance to lunacy". This man cannot possibly be the man to whom I'm supposed to be married.

I'd rather be alone than with this^^ guy, and yes, I mean that.