As for being the WAS, don't even go there! Besides, if you are...then it doesn't sound like he's DBing very well!
First of all it is not unusual for the LBS to become the WAS - in fact this is a rather normal thing to happen. In 25's case it just took a longer time to happen.
I would not worry about the label - IMHO - no big deal. I struggled with the same idea after my divorce but you can work through it. DETACH and - LET GO
25 I am not sure why you are trying to make sense of something an MLCer says, you know that you can not believe any of it and if his lips are moving that he is lying.
You need to treat the divorce like a business transaction and get the best deal you possibly can. If he quits his job then get a deal that means if he starts making more money then you have a claim to his future wages. As it is you should get half of his retirement, social security will not be an issue as that is a matter of law, and between you and the agency.
