Struggling

[Jim1234]

Not sure what state/jurisdiction you are in, or where this^^ issue stands at the moment.

But a lot of these types of issues will continue. My suggestion is to go whatever the law says, and not try to make new "JIM" law. And don't let your w act as if you fought something to the Supreme Court...there's usually a formula and that's that.

In other words, the court can see reality better than your w, and I'd just let the cards fall there they fall. (I assume you have a L, right? If not, get one. Do not con yourself into thinking having a L is "too expensive" when money or kids are issues).

And where are the kids going to want to spend time, at their home, or with the "not depressed, inactive chain smoker"?

Just curious.

Thank you very much for your input and thoughts.

The tax refund I've decided I will use to pay off our credit card debt. It would have been nice to pocket the whole thing, but that's probably not legal.

I do have a lawyer. Wouldn't think of doing this without one, bloodsuckers though they are.

Frankly, though, they'll probably spend time at her house, 'cause I actually have rules in this one, and there, they will be able to do pretty much whatever they want.