Chapter 4 - Acting As If

[giftd]

Hey BB,
Just read through; looking back you have made progress from when you started. It hurts to not be where you really want to be (I suppose that's why we are supposed to detach).

Everything I've read says that when you start to see progress something you are doing is working. But, your W has things to work through herself and it takes time. Sometimes a no isn't a bad thing. Unfortunately her mind and feelings aren't something you can control but that doesn't mean they aren't changing. You seem to be in a pretty good place with the kids and yourself. Always work to do, but time is your friend. Make sure you see the small victories you've achieved.

You've had some great advice on here, rereading is always good when you have doubts. If you aren't already, a personal counselor is a good person to talk to as well. Mine helps me walk through the things I want to say and vent, she's also read DR and likes MWD so she knows the language I'm using and my end goals.