Thank you for the comfort and kindness, I know posting on abuse sitches is very difficult. So thank you.
There is no way to sugar coat this. The Giggalo is still abusing me. It's called triangulation and the other party is the law.
He is using the court system to abuse. It's legal abuse.
There is no way to deny it and that it is happening. To deny that it is abuse gives him power over me. I have accepted he is abusing, that doesn't mean I am weak. I have strategies and am Surviving. It is important to bear in mind this is an abusive manipulative man and not let my guard down. Whilst I am putting my case to the law it is important I maintain that stance. And truly just because he abuses doesn't mean he has control. That only happens if I deny his abuse. What he does is abuse.
One doesn't forgive a crime in progress nor minimise it.
To me if he cut my arm off, I wouldn't say ahhhhh, that isn't violence. It's violence whatever my thoughts on it.
Eventually I will thrive.
And yes whilst he has a claim against my assets we are bound together. My D isn't finished.
I am trying to keep what is rightfully mine and the Giggalo is trying to take it away. Well he has me defending my stance.
So my view is quite different and yes being angry is very helpful at this stage. I actually care about his actions and not his words. The fact that I have been NC for 2 years whereas he has been aggressive, domineering and legally active is very helpful to me. My L says I have made no mistakes whilst in NC.
I simply want him to go away. At this stage it is important that I put up my boundaries and defend my fort.
Thank you for your care
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
