I'm not sure any one of us has the answer, but only suggestions or a potentially different perspective. I sometimes feel the one unspoken and undefined variable is time and timing. Its very tough to tell when or if time may change things.
The one thing i keep in the back of my mind is that in time i hope to look back and say i did all i could and came through the other side a better man, with or without her
I will also say that, although I don't know you, I am here should you just need to vent. You can never have too many means of support through this all
BD Oct 2016 Me 47, W 43 together 25 years S 25, D 22