I'm not sure any one of us has the answer, but only suggestions or a potentially different perspective. I sometimes feel the one unspoken and undefined variable is time and timing. Its very tough to tell when or if time may change things.

The one thing i keep in the back of my mind is that in time i hope to look back and say i did all i could and came through the other side a better man, with or without her

I will also say that, although I don't know you, I am here should you just need to vent. You can never have too many means of support through this all


BD Oct 2016
Me 47, W 43
together 25 years
S 25, D 22