The good thing about bigfoot hunting is there is no bag limit, though frankly I've never gotten to use my tags, so I must be doing something wrong.
I told MIL last night that I didn't expect to have to invite her and she was always welcome. We'll see what happens there.
Yes, I'm a fixer. It's completely ingrained. I don't even wait for people to finish talking before my mind is working on six different solutions to whatever the problem appears to be (and when they say something that invalidates one of those solutions, six more replace that one).
My whole adult life, I've put other people before myself. I've had two spouses, and always did whatever i could so they would have the freedom to do and be whatever it was they wanted or needed to be. I put first wife through nursing school, and she left me right before she graduated for the guy she was sleeping with. I let second wife be a SAHM even when we didn't need one anymore because we didn't need a second income, either, and I just wanted her to be happy.
When someone asks me what I want for Christmas or my birthday, the answer is almost always "nothing, I've got everything I need." I take joy in giving other people gifts, and don't mind if they don't get me anything in return. The only thing I've ever asked for in a relationship is love and honesty. I've always felt that with those two things, there were no insoluble problems short of death and taxes. When someone asks the inevitable "How's that working out for you?" the answer is obviously, "not too well, apparently."
I really don't know how to pay attention to myself. I can fix problems when I see them, if I care enough to (weight loss, both times I have done it, has been easy. I just had to have a reason to care enough to do it). I have no ability to maintain more than one or two close relationships at a time, and have no idea how to change that. I'm pouring everything I have into D right now, which can also be stated as "not working on me more than simple weight loss and trying to GAL."
I have plans tomorrow (board game group I found on meetup) and sunday (lunch with a "singles" group... "singles" in the sense of "not with anyone, meet new people" rather than "dating." Dating is not what I need right now, and frankly don't really want to. This is not a Beyonce song.) Saturday is "who knows" but I'm planning to stay away from the house since W said she was probably moving her stuff this weekend. That's going to hurt.
