Originally Posted By: EastTN
Mach, I don't think I would skip some activity to facilitate that relationship.


Yea, well, especially if it's Bigfoot hunting huh ??

One thing about what I was saying yesterday...

Whether it is the relationship between you and your spouse, or MIL, or whomever...

You appear to be a "fixer". Like most guys here are fixers, or reformed fixers. It's who we are, and pretty deeply ingrained into our genetic makeup.

What I see though, is that you are trying to fix a lot of crap, for a lot of people, rather than to turn that attention and effort on yourself.

Who benefits from the majority of your efforts ??

I would be willing to bet, that you are pretty far down on your list...

Where should your attention be ??


I also want to say, that CO-parenting is typically a pipedream through a Divorce, especially with an angry WAS..

It CAN happen down the road, and in rare cases, it happens quickly.

You can strive for a good relationship, but until all of the anger and resentment is gone, you will not experience true co-parenting.

And trying to fix that, or facilitate that ??

I'm not sure it's going to leave you feeling fulfilled.

Strive for it ?

Yes, by all means, do so..

Expect it ???

Expectations are a killer.

Do YOUR part, and your part only. Because the only person that you can control.....is you.


I like your plan about you asking MIL over for dinner nights...

Just be sure to express that your invitations will stop, however, she is welcome to set up a dinner night at anytime.

What plans do you have for the weekend ???