I feel you on "it's what you want", but you seem to be handling it really, really well. I struggle with the validating more than I should because of this.
For your sitch and money, it seems like you're doing a good job protecting yourself. Seems like she wants to walk all over you on money and you're doing what is necessary.
I wish you luck navigating.
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17