When finding out about the affair, I kind of just snapped out if the depression. It wasn't a big thing. I just was going through the routine of the day. I was functioning, but the relationship was being ignored. I've been talking with a counselor. My issues were based on nit being were I want to be career wise. Complacency was my biggest issue and why the marriage took a wrong turn. We were never the type to get into shouting matches. I believe our problems have simple solutions. It s just getting W to go along.