H cannot mistreat me anymore once this D is final.
There have been several times in which I have read comments addressed to someone hoping to reconcile, like me, in which the writer says "There are two divorces, the legal divorce and the emotional divorce." The implication being, of course, that the paperwork doesn't matter and there may still be a chance to fix their situation.
H can mistreat you with a D or no D...if you allow it. You and I both know I'm no expert on this stuff, but despite all the crazy bull$hit going on in his head, you guys still have a connection (to some degree) which means he can still hurt you if you're not careful. Like facebook posts. Or one of your kids mentions something he did. Stupid $hít, right? But I'm sure it will $uck regardless.
W and I both made independent decisions to shut off facebook in January. It was a nice tool to keep in touch with people, but given the current circumstances I have zero interest in it. Honestly, I really don't miss it. You can't insulate yourself from life, but there are probably some steps you could take to avoid some unnecessary bull$hít. Just a thought, hang in there!
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