Lana, I have been following your posts and admire your strength and perseverence. I can't imagine how you have been able to do this so long. I think you have it right. The more you handle everything the less he has to do (I'm in the same boat but in a different way). You have a great situation with the kids safe with your mom and him seemingly like he feels the need to step up. The more time you spend thinking and talking to people, the more you want to think about and talk to those people. Perhaps he truly is emasculated by the financial situation and now feels that he finally has something to contribut to the family with your absence?
