Am I in withdrawal ... will he ever wake up

[Lana_71]

Hello so here is my latest update...
I traveled out and left the kids with my mom . I know a very difficult move but it was needed if I want the kids to come over and have a good summer plan. I started my job a contract for 3-4 months and kids will join me in 4weeks. Looking for an apartment now to fix things before their arrival.
On airport I decided to send a msg to H telling him I am on the airport leaving kids with mom for 4weeks. Although I did inform him 2 months ago and he never opened that subject. I didnot expect a reply but decided it is the right thing to do as he is now closer in distance to them than me. Some how my younger msg her father to tell him I left and he started msg back and forth with her. Then Weird enough my younger kid made a big fuss at home looking for something for school which she misplaced, so she went into a panic mode and since I was in the plane my older kid decided to contact her dad and he called her back for 45 min . First call in 8 months with the kids. So when I landed I saw 40 msg between kids and him and one directed to me asking if I reached safely.
Somehow maybe me leaving was a good thing. Today they also msg with him expressing how much they loved him and he msg back ... very interesting . Note I have view access and to their msg .
Anyway i am happy to see maybe me letting go made him step up ... I guess I should have left long time ago....
I hope he will not disappoint them but it is his relationship with them. His call to make it or break it. This time I will completely stay far from that. I guess learned my lesson . Can't force him to be a father nor I can teach him . He need to figure it out .
That is it for the time being ...