25yearsMLC - 10 years later I FILE D

[25yearsmlc]

Try googling is the narcissist happy with the new woman. As I recall, you don't like labels, but this is exactly what they do.

I will google it b/c hey, we all have our wounded ego moments and fears. FWIW, it was my youngest child who labeled h a narcissist and I balked. Anyhow Thanks



This may sound awful, along the lines of your confession to Sandi, but to see you go through the same emotions as the rest of us mere mortals is such a reminder about how all of this is so difficult and life-changing no matter how much you know and have lived through.

yes it is. Even when you "know" you will be alright, there are dark nights of the soul for each of us.

Nights when our worst fears about ourselves OR about our future, take hold

b/c our cognitive guard is down when we sleep or dig too deep into our own shadows...
and we have to climb back up and out of our hole to see the light again.

The difference for you is that you are intelligent, compassionate, knowledgable and experienced. You will cycle through this faster than the rest of us.

Thank you.

Having DB'd before, I said then that I'd never go through this again. I knew for me it was a once in a lifetime ordeal.

And while some of the emotions are the same, the 2 additional pieces are that A) it's better b/c I really will cycle through this faster and not waste nearly the same mount of time on things I have no control over

2) it's worse b/c i cannot believe it's happened again and b/c I see almost no chance of a recon again. That's regardless of what h feels or wants down the road, too. Which is sad


The short answer is no, he is not happier with the new woman. When people are truly happy, they don't need to broadcast it on FB.

OMG so true.

WACKY GOOD THING today...so on my way to the therapist office I found $40, just bills and looked around for anyone walking near me. Nope, no one.

Okay, thanks, universe. So then I meet the T and she's great and helpful.

So then I go to the grocery store (driving my sweet car which I've soooo missed)

and I meet the same cute guy in the store, the one who walked my groceries home last week, twice.

He's very attractive & warm. My peeps have teased me about him being my "new bf".

So today I'm pretty sure he asked me out. (Yeah, I'm rusty but he for sure is interested).

Yes, I KNOW I'm not ready to be in a r.

But dang, I am ready to have a cute guy ask me out. And it was really flattering.

Today was a lucky day.