I definitely think Job is right about the control. The beautiful thing here is that he thinks he has control by filing and proceeding with the divorce, but that very act will cause him to lose the control he seeks with you. I know this is hard. I am living it too. Right now you are feeling the fear. On the other side of that is freedom. You just have to go a little further into that uncomfortable place. Lean into that fear. Embrace it. You are going to survive and flourish. He and OW will likely not be happy as Job says. In time that won't matter to you because you really will not care.
