"I'm sure if I go I'll end up asking about OW to some extent and discussing my feelings and I'm not sure he is in a place to hear that. "

Hi TO, from all that you post, you pressing him for answers about possible OW isn't going to help at all. I agree with 25, if you decide to go, do as she suggests and STFU about that. Just hear what he has to say and express your own wish to work on the marriage if that's what you want to do...

Remember - holding pattern until baby arrives right??

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

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