HaWho, I think you are so brave to put up with so much. it's a shame your H doesn't see the impact his behaviour has on his whole family but I guess that's the alien that has taken over!
As for not wanting to give S13 his lunch money. I would understand teaching him a lesson if he did it all the time, however still, I would be like you and hate knowing my child has to go hungry to prove a point.
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')