Just a vanilla change 34

[Vanilla]

OK Emotional NC

This is what it means to me
1. Intel, good solid Intel and facts, no hiding from the truth
2. No snooping, FB, texts, email, mail calls, block, defriend
3. All contact with a third party L
4. No discussion with ex other than with impartial
5. No listening to gossip
6. No creating gossip
7. Wish the ex well publicly and no chat,change the subject
8. Cleanse living space, move if you can, decorate
9. Rings, pictures, letters, cards all go, cleanse
10. Remove triggers of all sorts
11. None of their stuff in your space, none, Nada, nothing

Now for feelings
1. List your freedoms
2. Allow yourself minimal time each day when you think of them, cut that time ruthlessly
3. No rewriting of history, no wishful thinking
4. Use a name, depersonalise eg The Giggalo, the Duck, Jerk face, Skype dad, Disney girl, scumbucket, dips tick, crud loin
5. Convert them to cartoons, two dimensional, find an image which puts you off, I use the Disney baby image

Next
1. Write down the 10 worst nasty stuff (in your case the spell break FB post would be included)
2. Crash the 10 into a screen play in your mind
3. Faster and faster until in merges into one then throw it out from your body
4. Choose a song and image you really dislike and use it (I used Nuki Song as my ring tone from gummy bear)
5. Do a cleanse, burn your list, flush it whatever works
6. Take an image in your mind distort it, add squeaky voice, imagine them with piles etc etc
7. If you have an image of him with OW, image she has herpes or warts or spots or is an alcoholic or or or, give her a name too, the fishwife, RIT, scuzzy, tampon
8. Any times that the wayward seemed nice or loving then put a box around the image turn it black and white

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There are NLP techniques try googling I can mend your broken heart

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You look after you. Extreme self care.

V