Yes I struggled with the duplicity too, and friends have said the same. In my situation, XH booked airline tickets to go visit OW the following week. Then came home for the weekend and said nothing. We had a nice family lunch with some friends and then he left for his work commute as usual on the Monday - again saying nothing.

Truly, I just don't think he was able to handle being honest face to face and he ended up emailing to say he had been having an A. Weakness and fear.

In your situation, I had to SMH at your H meeting his 'Honey' the day after you filed for D 'out of the blue' - really?? It is a shame that so many people jump into a new R straight away - or in my case before - closing the door and healing from their former R - ugh..

Anyway - rant over - from all that you post I have every confidence that you will get through this situation with as much grace as you can muster and move forward with peace in your heart.

As you have kids and a long marriage, hopefully things will settle and you guys will ultimately be able to interact and link as needed..

You're doing so well, given all circumstances, and happier times truly lie ahead..

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus