MLCers are operating on pure emotions. When a person is very emotional, they can't always think straight and do things that they normally may not do. MLCers are that way. They may appear in control, but really they aren't. They want to control everything. They want to know everything you are doing, and yet, not share anything of their lives.
You have to remember, as children, they were seen, not heard, nor validated. They were "controlled" by authority figures, so w/going back in time, they need to be in control over something, be it you, the divorce, your child etc.
The way I read his response back to you is that he felt like you were trying to find out he is doing for the week. In his mind, he doesn't think he needs to tell you everything he does or what he has planned. Your request was a simple one, so I would suggest that you ignore his response back to you. It's really not about you, but more about him and how he's dealing w/his own life crisis.
I would only hand over the reins on things that you feel comfortable with. No matter what you do, it would still be the same reactions/behaviors w/him even if he weren't going forward w/the divorce. Once the divorce is finalized, you will need to think about having some Plan B's in place for child care and other things. Co-parenting w/an MLCer is difficult on the best of days.
Continue as you have been. Don't allow him to see you sweat! The calmer you remain, the better. If he sees that he is rattling your chain, he may very well continue to do so whenever he wants to control your situation.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
