Thank you so much Job. I am struggling right now. Your words are so helpful as I am so desperate for validation and support.
You really think he is out of control? He just seems so in control. Like he has everything figured out. I guess I am only seeing what is on the outside and what he is saying.
When I think about it the control thing does seem really important to him. For example, this morning I sent him a text asking him about his schedule for the weekend. He texted back, why do you want to know. I thought that was a hostile response, but responded politely that I am thinking about things I would like to do this weekend. Then he asked me if I had plans to take S on a overnight visit somewhere. (H is purportedly working an overtime shift Saturday evening into Sunday morning.) I sense a control issue. I had no overnight plans and politely responded.
Why do MLCers have such a strong need to control everything around them?
Should I hand over the reigns with regards to some things? Or should I do as suits me? Would it matter if he weren't going forward with D?
Thank you everyone. I am having a hard day and could use the support.
